During the recruiting process, and throughout your high school career, it is vitally important to remain focused on academics. After all, if you can’t get in to college, it’s going to be pretty difficult to play college sports… don’t you think? Even if you’re the best athlete in your area for a given sport, if you don’t get it done in the classroom you may not be eligible for many schools. But if your academic performance excels as it does on the field, it will open many doors. Good grades and good SAT scores can give you a great advantage over those who have not taken their academics as serious as they should have. Coaches do not need to take risks on poor students. It is too much of a headache for them to have to worry about your academic eligibility and put together a winning program. Given the choice between similarly skilled athletes, one who is a great student and one who is a mediocre student, almost every coach is going to go with the great student. Not only that, but scholarships are potentially decided on hundredths of grade point averages.
Unfortunately, too many student athletes cruise through high schools getting good enough grades to keep them athletically eligible. Then they cram for the SAT or ACT and try to ace the test to give them academic credentials. This just screams to coaches that you don’t take your work seriously. You would be wise to remember that academic eligibility for competing in college is far different than that required for high school. You can’t get a scholarship and compete for a college if you are unable to satisfy the eligibility requirements for not only the NCAA, but that particular school.
Also, you must remember that the better your grades and test scores, the more opportunities there are for you out there, in terms of finding a school to play for. Take NCAA Division III schools for example. DIII is considered the academic division of the NCAA, so much so that they do not give athletic money, only academic money. So, as a consequence, you must come in with good grades and good test scores to play for a division three school, or at least to get some scholarship money from a division three school.
Let me tell you a story that emphasizes this point. I had a client that was a good softball player. She had fairly decent grades but her test scores were lower than average. She had been through the program and was narrowing her list of schools, when she had the opportunity to visit a division three school that had shown some interest in her. She met with the coach, practiced with the team and took a tour of the school. In short, she fell in love with the school. The coach was so impressed with this player that she asked her to be her first commit of the recruiting class. The player loved the school so much that she agreed. Up to this point, this system worked just like it was supposed to. The player found the school that was her perfect fit. The only thing the player had to do was to get her test scores up. Her grades were such that she needed at least the national average on test scores to balance out the grades and gain entry. The player took the SAT two more times and could not raise her scores to any significant degree. When it came time to be admitted, the player was denied by admissions. The combination of moderately good grades and less than stellar test scores kept this player from attending a school that was a perfect fit! The coach called me, nearly in tears, telling me that if there was anything she could do – she would. She said that, any time this player could gain admittance to the school, she would have a place on the softball team. That’s how much the coach wanted her. So you can see how important academics can be! Don’t make the common mistake of believing your athletic prowess will get you to school regardless of your academics
The question came up the other day, can you coach character? In response, I posted a video where two college coaches were asked that very question and answered “absolutely.” I, of course agree. After all, the qualities that make up character are some of what I call my “separation qualities,” which are qualities athletes can use to separate themselves from their competition during the athletic recruiting process. Character is certainly a key concept to help athletes develop qualities that college coaches are looking for in a recruitable athlete. But as I thought about my post, I thought that I should probably clarify and expand on this very important topic.
First, I can share with you that I have heard from many college coaches, over the last ten years or so, that athletic skill aside, character is one of the key qualities they look for in a recruit. Now, can they coach character once the recruit arrives? Absolutely, and they will. However, a foundation of character must be present in order to even get that far. By the time they reach the college level, athlete or not, a student either possesses this foundation of good character or not. Some would argue that if an athlete has the grades, the talent and navigated years of club and high school sports, and the recruiting process, a base level of character must be present. I don’t necessarily disagree.
Basic character traits are constructed during childhood by those who knowingly or unknowingly pass on good character to young athletes through teaching, coaching and conversing on the subject, those who I call character coaches, or by simply modeling the behaviors associated with good character that the athlete sees and emulates, those who I call character influencers. A character coach can be anyone from a teacher or administrator at a school, to an athletic coach or family friend. However, the character coach, having the most significant impact in terms of character development is, without a doubt, parents and close family members. Parents and close family members are the key to building and instilling a solid foundation of good character in a young person.
So what is character and how can we build and improve it? If it is so important to college coaches, how can we show them that we have character? The dictionary defines character as a complex of moral, ethical and mental qualities distinct to an individual. In essence, character is really the sum of a number of individual qualities that make you a good or bad person in the eyes of others. These qualities, and others, are a window into your character for those who observe and get to know you. Those who are sizing you up, like employers or college coaches, are looking at these qualities to assess whether you would be a good candidate or not.
There are many qualities at play here, as we talk about the character of an athlete, but for purpose of defining character and discussing ways to improve or affect it in order to gain the attention of college coaches, I feel I should address these qualities separately. So, I have decided to dive into this topic through a monthly blog post. Each month I will explore a couple of these “separation qualities” that lead to good character, in-depth.
Let’s start with Integrity. The late Steven Covey, educator, author, businessman, and keynote speaker said “Integrity is conforming reality to our words - In other words, keeping our promises, fulfilling expectations and honoring those who are not present.” In his best-selling book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Covey describes “emotional bank accounts” that each of us hold. People in our lives make deposits and withdrawals in these accounts. Some of them continue to make deposits, while others are overdrawn, having withdrawn more than they had in the account. Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major “deposit”. Not showing up when you committed to, or failing to keep a promised confidence, is a major “withdrawals.”
You can spend a lifetime building your integrity, but it can be all lost in a second with a poor decision leading to an excessive withdrawal on emotional bank account of another. Integrity is your word, and your word is you. You may be broke, living on the street and eating scraps, but you can still have integrity.
Some people place a very high value on integrity, and coaches tend to be in that category. So how can you show a coach that you have integrity? Easy, do exactly what you said you would do. Call when you say you would call and if you are asked to provide something, do it right away and consider doing even more than you are asked to do.
Have the reputation of never being late and never leaving early. Have you ever heard the saying “early is on time, on time is late and late is unacceptable?” Live that saying and you will stand out among other athletes, trust me.
Motivational speaker, writer and consultant Denis Waitley says “A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.”
We humans make hundreds, if not thousands, of choices every day. A mature person realizes it is not the circumstances with which you are faced, but rather the choices you make regarding your circumstances that will determine the outcome. High school student-athletes need to have a firm grasp of consequences for actions.
You also must be the creative force of your life and understand that you are responsible for making it what it is. Sure, it’s really easy to blame it on others, circumstances and fate. But the bottom line is that the only one responsible for making your life what it is today, and what it will be tomorrow, was staring back at you in the mirror this morning. You must hold yourself accountable.
Be responsible for yourself. Don’t yell at your parents in the stands to go get you a water, go get it yourself. Don’t be seen walking out of an athletic venue scrolling through Facebook on your phone while your parents carry all of your gear. Carry it yourself, even if you have to make multiple trips. You are not a child anymore. If you act like one, you clearly telling everyone around you that you are not ready to play collegiate sports.
Of course you are going to make mistakes, everyone does. But you have the choice to accept responsibility for what happens, learn from it and move on, or blame others or other things, and continue on the path immaturity.
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